Bedwetting is a common issue that a lot of moms face during the development stage of their children.
It is a situation that requires the mother to be supportive, encouraging and reassuring for her child, so they can both get over this phase calmly.
Here are some useful tips to make bedwetting more manageable on a daily basis.
How to talk to your child about it
Children struggle to bring up this subject on their own. Help your kid talk freely to you and show support by listening and showing sympathy to gain his/ her trust. Reassure and encourage your child regularly in order to boost their self-confidence. Avoid discussing the matter and embarrassing your child in front of other family members.
Some basic tips
It is important to boost your child’s confidence by making them aware of the responsibility of looking after themselves. Advice your child to:
– Go to the toilet on their own during the day
– ‘Listen’ to the signals that their bladder is sending
– Avoid delaying toilet trips and to make the trip as soon as they feel the need
– Drink water regularly during the day but limit drinks in the period before going to sleep
– Leave a light on in their bedroom so that they can go to the toilet easily during the night
Good habits to adopt…and maintain all night long
Set clear and simple rules for your children to adopt during bed time:
- Children will have a better night if they are relaxed when they go to bed. A bath and a story is a good way to make bedtimes more enjoyable and calming.
- There is no use talking about the problem every night, instead take advantage of the time together to enjoy a moment of relaxation and intimacy with your child.
- If your child wears a night time diaper, it is their responsibility to put it on before going to bed. Simply leave the packet in their bedroom so that they remember what they need to do.
- Do not wake your child in the night to take him or her to the bathroom. Let them sleep. Sleep is precious at their age for their growth and emotional development.
Bedwetting upon waking
Has your child wet the bed? Do not scold or humiliate them. They did not do it on purpose and they are not responsible for the situation. Do not exaggerate the problem, reassure your child so that they do not feel guilty.
If your child does not wear night-time protection, and is old enough to change themselves, leave them a dry pair of pyjamas and clean sheets so that they can do so on their own.
If your child uses a night diaper, tell them to throw them away in the morning if they have had an accident.
A bedtime routine
A relaxing routine allows you to peacefully welcome the night ahead. Here are a few ideas to make bedtime a happy and calm moment. Here is what you can adapt:
- A bedtime bath for your child to play and have fun
- Little massages or cuddles can comfort a child who is worried about the night ahead
- Dim the lights to warms the child’s bedroom
- A final toilet trip before going to bed
- Don’t offer your child drinks before bedtime
- Be positive. Don’t bring up the subject of bedwetting. Concentrate instead on the pleasures of bedtime, the time you are spending together to talk, laugh and relax
In case of accidents, handle the situation kindly
If your child does not wear nighttime underwear and has an accident during the night, keep a dry pair of pyjamas and clean sheets close to hand to make your life easier in case of an accident. If your child puts on a pair of night time diapers, even after a little accident, they will get back to sleep more easily and confidently.
After an incident, your child may well be tense and feel guilty. Reassure them while they get changed and use the bedside light instead of the ceiling light whenever possible.
Children that suffer from enuresis (the medical term for bedwetting) need lots of comforting; this restores their self-confidence and allows them to go to bed peacefully.
Bedwetting and staying away from home
A ‘bedwetting’ child will be reluctant to spend the night away from home, with the understandable fear that they will wet the bed and the teasing that may result.
Remind them and reassure them that they are far from being the only child of their age that wets the bed. Talk to a doctor about it and, with your child’s permission, tell a responsible adult who will be able to manage the problem in your absence.
Using night diapers will prove to be very useful in these situations. Suggest to your child that they take them in their luggage so that they can put them on discreetly during their trip, at the time they go to bed.