“Guide to Performing Balance Acts for Working Moms” by Rheema Menon
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less travelled by,”
(Road Not Taken by Robert Frost)
I am dedicating this post to all the WONDER moms who struggle every day for their family and try to make all ends meet without complaining. Life is never sweet and for a mother the struggle is real. We crave to be free and independent. But for the working mothers, the question of balance is a huge task. At the same time, family is important and we shouldn’t forget our duties towards them.
Keeping all this in mind, I bring to you a few tips that I feel is important and I hope this helps many Mothers too.
- Moral support: I recently read about a post in which depression is an alarming factor especially among women. Most of them are caged and don’t have the space to express themselves. A woman needs support from her family and friends. Sometimes a pair of listening ears is a huge relief. So always seek support and don’t keep any of your frustration inside. Whenever I have a problem, I seek support from my family or a close friend. At times the solutions they give help a great deal and assure me that I am not alone in this.
- Job: I have seen many women being desperate to start their career but because of career break, they are unable to find one. The job market is like that. Companies don’t opt candidates with a career break. Well that is the reason I wanted to work. My husband’s sister is my greatest support. She encouraged me to start working and I thank her for that. Value your job! There are so many unfortunate who want to be in your position. Job market is getting tougher each day and the struggle is real to land on a job. I try to finish all my work in office itself and not take the burden to home. It is better to finish the work way before deadline in order to not rush things at the last minute!
- Time: Prioritize your time for everything. Plan ahead as it saves you time and the hassle free. We are lucky to have 24 hours a day! In fact, I met a woman Entrepreneur and she said that she finds time for her career, business and family. A 7-hour sleep and she is good to go for the day. This was a great message for me as I believe that we shouldn’t blame time for everything. Once home, I dedicate the whole time to my family. I give bath to my daughter and feed her. After that I cook dinner before my husband arrives and we spend time with each other. It is this time that my husband and I play with the little one and also spend time with each other because it is important for her to know the importance of family life and quality time.
- Maintain good relationship with caretaker: Your caretaker is a very important person in your life. Maintain good friendship and treat them like a family member. Even they deserve RESPECT. Only a happy person can create a happy environment for your kids. When I have a lot of chores to do, I call my baby sitter and tell her that I will be late to pick up my little one. She is a mother too and understands my plight too. But, I make it a point to spend at least half an hour with her once I am back from office. She too gives me lot of moral support and is a very inspiring lady!
- Routine: Only the first few days are hard for us. Set up a routine for you and family. Try to put your kids to sleep every day at the same time including weekends. This avoids them from being cranky the next day.
- Weekend: I love weekends! The 3 of us spend time with each other. It is the weekend that I experiment with food when the husband is there as he takes care of the little one and I am left to my world of cooking. It is time to build relations. We explore places and meanwhile spend time with friends and family.
- Get your partner involved: When I am unable to take leaves to take care of my lil one, my husband comes to my rescue. He helps out and knows her routine too. He changes her diapers, gives her a bath and feeds her. I see many ladies complaining that they don’t involve their partner at all. Please don’t do that. Father is also as important as a Mother.
- Driving: This should be considered as equal to your career. Obtaining a driving license is the biggest necessity. My grandmother still drives and I am amazed at how she handles the traffic back in India. I took my license about 4 years ago and only after delivery I started to drive again because of my husband’s compulsion. At that time, I was scared and I thought I would never ever be able to drive. But now I consider this as a blessing as I don’t have to depend on anyone to take me anywhere.
- Past time: Always find time to do something you love. This is a great relaxation technique. I recently discovered my passion for blogging and it gives me a lot of joy each time I publish a post.
- Credit yourself and create Happiness: Always be proud of what you have achieved. Whenever I drive alone, I use this time to speak to myself or plan on what I should be doing next. I try to stay happy and create a happy atmosphere. I sometimes cook for my colleagues and friends and this gives me immense happiness when they are happy.
“I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
(Road Not Taken By Robert Frost)
This article is contributed by Rheema Menon
(A working mother with a passion for blogging. Blogger @ Little Menon Momma)